Recently I talked to a friend who works in Shanghai, let’s just call him JW.
Fact: I don’t like some shit stuff he did in the pass to my girl, but that doesn’t mean I don’t like him, I just not like the things he did and for real, if that’s what he need to do to survive, I have no problem with that.
Somehow we start talking again in MSN, I knew from a conversation with SW recently that JW is on the way to the “dark side” and really need some positive energy to shake him up. In MSN, JW start to complaint about the coldness of this world and how he is sorry for what he did and he try hard to change it but its just too late, blah blah and blah.
One thing that he said really make me think, he told me his father is not in a good health now and he is worry, then I ask him why cant he relocate back to Taipei since he is just alone in Shanghai and I don’t see any good reason for him to stay there especially his dad is sick, he told me that he doesn’t want to go back, first of all the money he got there is good and he feels if he do go back to Taipei, he will be a loser.
Here is the thing! Why people think if you ever go aboard to study (because that’s what he did, he went to UK for a degree) and if you didn’t stay for some reason and you go back to Taipei, you are a loser, WHY?
I remember a presentation from a manager of Emirate airline, she told me in Dubai, one of the craziest and busiest and most fast growing city in the world now, there are so many young people/ artists go back there to give back and find their roots again, they go aboard to try to bring the knowledge from bigger country/world to their home country to make it better, this is such a beautiful thing! aint that the first reason why people go aboard to study? Go different country to see different things and bring back the “differents” to make theirs better? For personal or not personal.
But JW think go back to Taipei is a sign of loser. Be honest, if you just tell me the pay is good and you are doing for your own future, its ok for me, everyone works for paper, money cant buy everything but money can make lots people feel secure, no doubt about it. But you think you are a loser? for me, that is just not right, and not just JW think in this way, I know many people they feel this way, WHY?
Let’s say you come all the way to NYC to study and by law, after school (not the language one) you can legally to work here for a year, and if luckily you find one job, the company can sponsor you to stay as long as you want. Why not stay? The pay is better then Taiwan, and you live in the most fabulous city in the world (forgive me; I love this place too much!) but what if you don’t get an offer? and what if you do get an offer but you don’t like living here? Not everyone can live in another city easily just like that, hell no! I know I can’t! I just got lucky I married to a New Yorker and I fit in the life style here right away and perfectly. So do I want to move back to Taipei? Not really, but if there’s a good offer and we can live comfortable there as here, I will do it! I love my country as same as NYC, it just mix race marriage, there is so many things you have to make a choice, and for this moment of my life, we live in NYC.
And is that makes me a “winner” by living here and didn’t go back? Hell no!
Living here in NYC is REALLY hard, the living expense is high, same as all the big cities, its $5 a day just to go to work by subway, and don’t let me get to the rent part! Its average $1000 a month for a shoebox size studio, TRUST ME! It’s very hard to live here by money wise!
So if it’s so hard, why I stay here? Well, just google it! Google why people like New York and that will be the reasons why I like New York. Plus my love is so call the typical New Yorker (what’s that mean? I don’t know! haha)
But at the same time, google why people HATE New York, I believe there will be a lot pages show up too.
So, winner or loser? It’s not base on where you live, its base on what you do to your life and if your dad is sick and that’s not a good reason for you to go home for, hmm…. You to judge!
Saturday, October 9, 2010
Friday, October 8, 2010
Why cant I have my own blog?
So here I go! My first blog (blah), about… Why can’t I have my own blog? It’s free, right?
Got an email this morning about a new restaurant called Xiao Ye in lower east side will have delivery service, too bad I aint no Manhattan, I live in Queens, so pass to Ann Marie instead.
The thing caught my eye in the first place is its name “Xiao Ye” because it’s really an important meal of the day for Taiwanese people, more then breakfast, and especially for my family.
My whole family are alcoholic (forgive me, father and mother, you are! A bottle scotch a day is the standard for alcoholic) but they drink in a good way! I remember I had a conversation with my cousin who visits me a year ago, Ruru, aka the girl cant drink she has to call for daddy’s help. Because the way we dine here is pretty different from Taiwan, he is American who love to cook, I am Taiwanese who’s role is more like a Mexican, dish wash, food prepare and eat (come on! just laugh, ok!) Our dinner is always in one plate, but in Taiwan, the standard is 4 dishes, one soup with a bowl of rice on the dinner table. Here, we put everything in one plate on the lap, eat, chat and watch TV at the same time.
So we start have this conversation about different way of eating, here and Taiwan.
Ruru told me one thing that I can’t forget “don’t you think in Taiwan, when dinner is ready, all the dishes on the table, plus a bottle of any kind of drink with alcohol will be perfect?” that’s right! Since I was little, grandpa always needs half glass of rice wine with his meal, and we always have enough rice wine inventory in the house(note, rice wine aint no regular wine, it has a higher alcohol content (18-25%) than wine (10-20%)
Even now, when I go home visiting, my brother Sean aka who cant drink either and need to call his big sister ME to clean his puke, he always has a beer next to his rice bowl and my dad would have water down scotch refillable shot glass (note, shot glass in Taiwan is bigger then here, like 5 time more!) next to his meal, so, what’s up with the drinking thing in Taiwanese?
Well, as most of you know Asian are more shy, which I don’t approve at all (hell no!) have you seen them drunk? My dad can speak English when he has alcohol in his body! (I will video it when I go home this time, very amazing! Didn’t know alcoholic have this side effect) anyway, alcoholic help them loose, well help everyone loose but somehow for Taiwanese, well, at least for my family, alcoholic is the key for communication, family members who has beef between them, will use this method to speak their mind, the result? Sometimes it’s good, sometimes it’s bad.
And “drinking ability” is the way to see your “status” in my family, you can’t drink the 25 years single malt scotch unless you old enough or married, like me. If you are “young” you can only do beer or the 12 years water down scotch. Plus, where you sit is also another hard to explain knowledge, depend on your age, sex and married or not. I have a baby father cousin who’s status is still in the 12 years water down scotch because he is young and not married even he got a boy. It’s interesting, right?
Anyway, you found out my family are alcoholic, its fine, we love to drink and have a good time, remember to train your drinking ability when visiting, or you will end up sitting next to my 17 yrs cousin and drink water down 12 years scotch which is yek... so not smooth!
*my mom with her full equip, my baby father cousin can only sit on corner lol
Got an email this morning about a new restaurant called Xiao Ye in lower east side will have delivery service, too bad I aint no Manhattan, I live in Queens, so pass to Ann Marie instead.
The thing caught my eye in the first place is its name “Xiao Ye” because it’s really an important meal of the day for Taiwanese people, more then breakfast, and especially for my family.
My whole family are alcoholic (forgive me, father and mother, you are! A bottle scotch a day is the standard for alcoholic) but they drink in a good way! I remember I had a conversation with my cousin who visits me a year ago, Ruru, aka the girl cant drink she has to call for daddy’s help. Because the way we dine here is pretty different from Taiwan, he is American who love to cook, I am Taiwanese who’s role is more like a Mexican, dish wash, food prepare and eat (come on! just laugh, ok!) Our dinner is always in one plate, but in Taiwan, the standard is 4 dishes, one soup with a bowl of rice on the dinner table. Here, we put everything in one plate on the lap, eat, chat and watch TV at the same time.
So we start have this conversation about different way of eating, here and Taiwan.
Ruru told me one thing that I can’t forget “don’t you think in Taiwan, when dinner is ready, all the dishes on the table, plus a bottle of any kind of drink with alcohol will be perfect?” that’s right! Since I was little, grandpa always needs half glass of rice wine with his meal, and we always have enough rice wine inventory in the house(note, rice wine aint no regular wine, it has a higher alcohol content (18-25%) than wine (10-20%)
Even now, when I go home visiting, my brother Sean aka who cant drink either and need to call his big sister ME to clean his puke, he always has a beer next to his rice bowl and my dad would have water down scotch refillable shot glass (note, shot glass in Taiwan is bigger then here, like 5 time more!) next to his meal, so, what’s up with the drinking thing in Taiwanese?
Well, as most of you know Asian are more shy, which I don’t approve at all (hell no!) have you seen them drunk? My dad can speak English when he has alcohol in his body! (I will video it when I go home this time, very amazing! Didn’t know alcoholic have this side effect) anyway, alcoholic help them loose, well help everyone loose but somehow for Taiwanese, well, at least for my family, alcoholic is the key for communication, family members who has beef between them, will use this method to speak their mind, the result? Sometimes it’s good, sometimes it’s bad.
And “drinking ability” is the way to see your “status” in my family, you can’t drink the 25 years single malt scotch unless you old enough or married, like me. If you are “young” you can only do beer or the 12 years water down scotch. Plus, where you sit is also another hard to explain knowledge, depend on your age, sex and married or not. I have a baby father cousin who’s status is still in the 12 years water down scotch because he is young and not married even he got a boy. It’s interesting, right?
Anyway, you found out my family are alcoholic, its fine, we love to drink and have a good time, remember to train your drinking ability when visiting, or you will end up sitting next to my 17 yrs cousin and drink water down 12 years scotch which is yek... so not smooth!
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